Disgusted and Motivated.

today i heard the most disgusting, and shocking thing i could ever hear. "it's her fault she was raped."
the idea that culture has let this become a widely accepted view is disgusting. in no way should a victim ever be held responsible for something so horrifying. maybe it's just that i know a lot, well not a lot, but i know some people who were victimized in that way, and how they blamed themselves for their situation, but it's not the victim's fault. never.
i just know that the homophobic, ignorant, douche who said that would think differently if it had been their sister, or if he was a woman. maybe the circumstances of this individual, and how he grew up made him think so wrongly, but i think that we should change the culture, and the education, with situations like this.

and for you, you forced her to do something that she was uncomfortable with, she asked you not to. and then later, while arguing with her, you said, "it takes two to tango." i honestly think that you should be hung from a tree, you forced yourself on her, and made it impossible for her to say no. that is sexual abuse.  and later blamed her. we were friends. i was friends with both of you. now i can't look at you without thinking about what you did. and sure it might be viewed as socially acceptable, but it's not in anyway. i want you to know this. i have lost a lot of respect for you.
this is why we don't talk anymore.